Towards social health by culture that favours touching
This is an important and painful subject: the lack of physical contact in childhood and adolescence has strong connection with sexual incapability later in life.
Let’s try to find some reasons for this.
I think that in this respect Finnish families are divided into A and B families. In one group children are cherished and held a lot, in the other group this is not the case. What you experience in your childhood family has a relevant role in later life.
Awareness and education, balanced family life and mental health are in determining roles. Children are touched the least in families that suffer from urgency, career demands, alcohol or drug abuse and that use a lot of time for social media and television.
Three hours of watching TV, together with SOME holism that is affecting also Finland nowadays, undermines the mental health of the family and reduces internal connection.
The Finnish Government has decided on a new alcohol policy, according to which the consumption level is to be kept high or even increased, which is bad news for countless children whose parents' high alcohol consumption is ruining the quality of their life.
Experience and observations, together with studies, already prove that FB causes depression and thus less affection. The smart phone engages both hands. While watching TV the child can at least sit on your lap even though he won’t get much attention there.
When the general balance of spiritual life and its quality are deteriorating, as is happening now, there is less and less time and physical affection for children.
In some countries, e.g. in China, things are even worse. There the need to cherish children is not acknowledged and children are exposed to shame in kindergarten and at school. SOME holism is even worse than in Finland, and the consequences are terrible. The communication is artificial, touching non-existent and sexuality also in relationships often unhappy.
Prompt development is needed in this matter. Better alcohol policy, information campaigns for homes, massage instruction in child health clinics and schools, more dance lessons at schools. Also the improvement of social security and increasing games based on accepting touching would bring results.